Now there are all the common ways that we heard. You know, here's how you get that special someone to like you and to not stop thinking about you. Here are the best ways to get a boyfriend and girlfriend get that one person to like you. I'm gonna share with you three of the most shocking and uncommon ways to get that special someone to think about you non-stop and make you irresistible.
Attract That Special Someone: Work On Your Finances
Number one, work on your finances, not in a way where you're like, “Check it out, baby, want to get in my car?” It's a sports car, but in a way where you actually have individual direction in your life, cuz get this. The gall polls recently said that about 70% of Americans are losing sleep over finances right now with lockdowns. It's amazing about 80% of people are living paycheck to paycheck.
Now let's ask a simple question. What is the basis of attraction or magnetism? It is subconscious energy. That's why people always say, I don't even know why they're just so attractive. I just really like them because it's subconscious. It's an energy that we transmit on a subconscious level. You are exactly like a radio broadcasting tower. That's transmitting a frequency. Your frequency is your attraction pattern or wavelength that other people pick up on a subconscious level.
Have Financial Goals: It's Attractive!
Well, a lot of that comes from confidence or lack thereof, assurance of self or lack thereof. And people can pick that up. Now, most people don't have any level of real freedom in their life because they have no sense of organization over their finances, right? This isn't about “Go out there and be a billionaire”. But when you meet that special someone and you're one of those few people that has a financial goal and has confidence about your work life, it translates.
I was just talking to my friend recently, just got an awesome new job, getting paid super well. And he's like, I feel more confident than ever at my job. I'm getting paid better. He was meeting some women and he was just casually talking to them, all excited about his life. And this one woman said, I am so attracted to you. He was like,” Slow down baby”.
But the thing was very few people in the world can say that they like what they do. They're excited about it. They have a grasp over their finances and thus, they have a higher level of freedom. There are very few people in the world that can see that. And when you have that, it creates a certain magnetism whereby my friend is like, “Yeah, here's what I do. Here's what I'm stuck about. It's awesome. Here's what I'm doing”. And this woman's like, “Whoa, why haven't I met anyone like you before?”
Subconscious Magnetism: Its A Pattern Interrupt
That's the subconscious magnetism. In sales, they call it a pattern interrupt. It's when you interrupt a certain habitual thought pattern or like all those weird internet marketing ads that you see. And it's just like, it starts right away. It's like a pink Ferrari that makes everyone say "Wow!".
Then, they come out. They're trying to interrupt the pattern. Well, the same thing happens in attraction chemistry. And if you interrupt the pattern because everyone is so similar, struggling with the same problem, and staying on the same frequency. But then, you pop in, which changes everything. So here are a few simple ways that you can start to do that.
Let's break Step one into two parts. Do you have a clearly defined monthly financial goal and a clearly defined annual financial goal? The second part of this question is, does this goal stretch you into the person that you don't even know you're able to become yet?
What Type Of Goal Do You Have A, B, or C?
There's Type A, Type B, and a Type C financial goal. The "A" type is a goal that you already know how to do. This is what most people are doing. Right? You sit down, and you start talking and you talk about your dreams and goals, but they aren't big at all. They're goals. You make 40K a year and you wanna make it again. That's an "A" type goal. There's no growth in it.
A "B" type goal is a goal that you think, you know how to do. “I make 40k so I'd like to make 45k next year”. Finally, a "C" type goal is like “For the past 40 years, I've made 40 and now I wanna make 60k or 80k. I want to double it”. That's a "C" type goal. It has the energy to it. And the point of that goal isn't getting the money. The point of that goal is who you become in the process. That growth, that excitement, that magnetism, and that has an attraction pattern to it. When you start moving along on that, you have more freedom and that's sexy, baby.
Work On Your Confidence: It's For That Special Someone!
Number two, work on your confidence, but not in a way where you work on it. So you find new pickup lines and new techniques to get somebody to like you. It's a little bit different. So I want you to imagine that you're gonna spend the rest of your life. Not with someone. Would you be happy, right? If you never find the romantic partner you're looking for, would you be happy? Most people would say, no, they wouldn't be.
But why even say that, build a life that you don't need somebody else to help you escape from it. And when you do that, you are going to meet someone else out of nowhere. That's on that same frequency. Remember, think of a day like a radio broadcasting tower and everyone's transmitting a subconscious frequency pattern. And then you attract back to you similar frequency patterns. That's why two people that constantly sabotage relationships, or they're constantly prone to drama.
It is Really For You: Make A Life You're Happy With!
That's why they attract one another. Birds of a feather flock together. And it's the same exact thing with confidence. So pretend for a moment that nobody else could ever fulfill you and pretend that you will not meet that special someone until you begin the process of becoming the perfect version of yourself. I didn't say you become the perfect version of yourself. I said you go on the process of that.
So that means are you excited about your life when you wake up, are you excited about what you do for work and career? Are you excited about your financial life? Ask yourself, are you in debt, and are you in debt servitude to the system? Do you exercise? Are you in good shape? Can you do 20 pushups right now? Right? Just start going down the list.
Tweak What You Can Improve In Your Life
Do I like who I am? What are the areas of my life that I know I could improve, but I still don't do them when you go within yourself and look at those aspects and tweak those? That's what makes you attractive. Because these are things that nobody or very few people are willing to do.
Just look at the data. We know for a fact that 78% of people live paycheck to paycheck. Nine out of Ten, people die with less than $10,000 in virtually no financial assets, no problem in not having money. But the problem with this is we don't have any freedom. And when you don't have any freedom, you don't have any confidence.
But the problem with this is we don't have any freedom. And when you don't have any freedom, you don't have any confidence. If you don't like what you do, you have to do it 40, 50 hours a week. You're not very confident and you're not very excited or you don't have a lot of energy.
Be The Best Version Of Yourself: That Special Someone Is Waiting.
So how do you expect to attract that special someone; that you want to get them to think about you and become irresistible? How do you expect to do that? We can't, right? I can only sit here and tell you this. Not because I'm some dating master or something. Heck, I haven't been on a date in 10 years since I met my wife.
But because I went through this exact thing, the persons before I met my wife, I thought they were gonna be the one. And I tried so hard to get that relationship. I did so many techniques and tricks and I wooed them for so long. Finally, I got them and I was like, “Check it out guys!”, but that's not a foundation to build a relationship on.
And so that relationship fell apart in a very bad way and I was very sad about it. I was depressed for a while, I was like, “Why am I depressed? This is silly. I need to get happy again”. And I just poured all my energy into myself and my life. Instead of trying to pour it into a relationship, love, or romance, or getting someone to like me, or trying to find the right person. Instead, I tried to find myself in the best version of my life.
Meeting Someone Special You Want To Spend The Rest of Your Life With
Then out of nowhere, boom! When I'm on that path, I met Ashley and she said to me during the first night we met, "I've never met anybody like you”, cuz, first of all, I didn't care about getting into a relationship cuz my life was freaking awesome. At that moment I had just signed a book deal with the number one English publishing company in the world, Penguin Random House. I was 22 years old.
Right. I should have been like a junior in college and all of a sudden I have a five-figure check from the number one English publishing company in the world. And I didn't have to brag about it. It was just like, she's like, “What are you up to? What do you do? Well, this is what I do. What? I never heard anyone do that before. Right?” And I'm like, yeah I'm uh… It was just natural.
Do What You Like Not Just What Works.
It doesn't mean you need to be like some top book publisher. You might be like someone that always has loved hiking, but you never did it. And you never became a travel photographer because you didn't ever think you could make money at it. So you're stuck in this office job that you hate. You don't like it at all, but still, you do it anyways. I mean, how do you explain your life to someone when you're sitting, having a glass of wine, hoping that they like you?
Don’t Let Your Fears Control You
So what about you? Well, you know, I hate my life and uh, you know, I'm starting to really not like myself that much, cuz I found out I'm a giant little B I T C H because I just let all my fears control me in life and I've always wanted to do this dream. But you know, I really don't think highly of myself and you know, I'm not very motivated. I don't have that much energy.
And you know after I get back from the job, I hated it since my bosses were mean to me. I just like to sit in front of the phone and scroll it. You know, it just helps me escape. So what about you? Um, no thank you. Right? Like that's the subconscious dialogue that's taking place. Understand all of this attraction is subconscious work on your confidence by finding out how to create the best version of yourself. By default, you're gonna try to act an entirely new type of person.
Let Go Of The Fear Of Loneliness
If you can't let go of the fear of being alone, you'll always settle for someone that is one step away from your special someone. Think about that. If you don't let go of or conquer, or just face the fear of being alone, then what you're gonna do is surround yourself with people or romantic relationships. That’s where you're settling and building an invisible ceiling, just because you are afraid that if you aren't with this person, you might be alone.
Now, this isn't just us. If you're in a relationship right now, think about the subconscious energy. When you go on a date or you're trying to woo someone trying to get them to text you back and call you back, you're trying to get it going, but you're really afraid. Then, it doesn't work out.
Be Happy With Yourself: Don't Be Afraid to Be Alone
Do you know how dogs can pick up that fear? A lot of animals can pick a human fear. Well, subconsciously a person does the same thing. So they pick up on your fear and they may not even be able to vocalize it. The fact is, if you are afraid of being alone, you will always be alone.
Even if you're with someone, the fact is, if you are afraid of being alone, you will always be alone. Even if you're with someone, think about this. There's so much depth to you. We walk around our whole life and most of us have no idea who we are. Do you know who you are? Do what you're capable of. Do you know what you're good at? Do you know what you're excited about? Do you know the depths of who you are?
Cuz there's a lot to explore. It's endless, but most people get to the end. They have no idea who they are but they know who other people think they are. When you find out who you are and you get to know yourself and like yourself and respect yourself and love yourself and get excited when you wake up and you're in your body the next day, guess what the relationships you get in are better.
Know Who You Are, The Rest Will Come.
You're more confident. You're more attractive. You're more mag. You have more magnetic energy. Your romance is better. Your sex life is better. All of these things become better. Why? Because you have a connection to yourself. When you let go of the fear of being alone, guess what happens? Just like a planet has a gravitational pull, it’s the same thing in romance and dating.
Every person has a gravitational pull, just like a planet, right? And your gravitational pull of what you bring in orbit is based of what fears control you. So if you are afraid of being alone, you can only pull back into your orbit. Things that match that situation, right? Someone that you really like, and they don't like you. So you keep getting to this point where you're like, “I just want them to like me. Oh my gosh, I'm gonna be alone again”. And it keeps repeating.
It's An Endless Cycle
The cycle keeps repeating until we learn, and earn the lesson. The lesson keeps repeating until we learn it. So I want you to look yourself in the mirror and I want you to say, “ I love myself and I'm not afraid to be alone”. Keep repeating “I love myself and I'm not afraid to be alone”. And when you can say that and repeat that it starts to feel right through your bones.
That's when you know you're gonna get that person, and manifest a text message from them. You're gonna get them to find you interesting. You're gonna become more attractive and your life more than anything is gonna feel more enjoyable to live. Thanks for checking out the blog and we will see you next time. Remember, Miracles are Normal.