I Hate Money Because I Talked Bad About It: Now, I might be the only nut job, but I always wanted money, and I always talked really badly about it. That doesn't make much sense, right? It's like you want to be in a relationship, but you always talk badly about the person. How long do you think that person is going to stay around? We do the same thing with money, at least that's what I do; that's what I did, and I changed my conversation around money, and my whole life changed. I thought it was really interesting that I could use the totality of my inner conversation about money to perfectly illustrate my outer bank account, for instance. Read here if you want to learn more - Money Is Energy That Helps You Survive.
We Lived In A Society Where Money Existed
I hated money. I despised the fact that we lived in a world where money existed; we wished we didn't. I hate that we have to do this; I hate that we have to live in a world where we have to make a living; I wish we lived in this -- I don't know, in utopia or something -- and I would always say things like that, and I thought that rich people ruined the world, so it's no wonder I never had any money. It's an ironic thing, right? I had that conversation about money, but then in everyday reality, Jake had to pay his rent.
Jake likes organic, very healthy, and expensive foods, and that's not cheap. All of a sudden, third-dimensional Jake is like, "What's going on?" I can't get it. Yeah, I don't have enough," but what that was doing was just making me more resentful. I got more angry, then I got more jealous of people who had money, then I got more frustrated, then I was like, "I don't want to do it at all," and then I got more resigned to it, and it made me more angry, more frustrated, and more disenfranchised. So many people do this, and some do it with a similar belief system as me.
Money Is A Piece Of Paper And Used To Be Seashells
Some people just think they're not smart enough. Some people think God will hate them and that money is the root of all evil. We have these really silly conversations about money. Money is a freaking piece of paper. That's all it is: a piece of paper that symbolizes a value transfer between two people. Money used to be seashells. Money could be easier to use than seashells, but money used to be like an ox or a sheep. I mean, imagine if you walked into 7-Eleven with a sheep and they were like, "Okay, that's going to be 11, sir," and you were like, "Can I give you one sheep?" They would call 911. So we have a very convenient way to store and transfer value. That's all money is, and God is not going to hate you if you have it.
Money Has Ears, And It Hears You When You Call It
If God created everything, don't you think He wants you to fly first class and have the house you want? Do not stress about putting your kids to school, paying for the right health insurance, or traveling the world. Don't you think God wants you to do that if God created everything? Well, don't you think God wants you to have money? So let's cross that one about it not being wholly off the list, and then you look at the other one, like me, where I had all these weird ideas about how I just wished I didn't live in a world of it and I hated it. Well, the reality is I do live in a world with a value transfer system; it's called society, and I realized money has ears and it hears when you call it, so I started changing my conversation about it. Money has ears, and it hears you when you call it. Read here if you want to learn more - How To Bring Money Into Your Life in 7 Ways.
Think about how some people will watch this video and say, "That's silly; that's stupid; or this guy who's doing this new-age thing where money has ears in your ears when you call it." So let me explain it to you in a little bit more detail. So it's not like money actually has little ears that are built into a hundred-dollar bill, because now what I'm saying is that your relationship with everything in your life is based on your inner conversation. It determines your relationship with it; it determines how much of something or how little of something you have in your life; it determines your habits about it and your personal interactions with it. My inner conversation about my wife has made us have an amazing relationship; she's as much a part of that as my inner conversation about her. Other people have very negative inner conversations about their relationships right now, so their intercom is very loud.
Please, I know it seems like a silly, stupid thing. You're just like, "Dude, just keep talking, bro." I don't want to hear you tell me to hit the "like" button if you do hit the "like" button. Leave a comment and say, "Hey Jake" or whatever; it actually truly does help the YouTube algorithm, so I don't spend a zillion dollars on YouTube ads like a lot of these people do. So a way that you can help me get the message out and compete on YouTube is by simply hitting the "like" button and sharing this video on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Leaf Chat, which is a new app. Just joking, I just made that up, but you could share it. Hit the like button and comment, and I'll go back to talking.
Your Relationship With Money
So money has been around for years, and here's what I was saying. What I mean by that is to think about relationships. That's what I was talking about. If you're in a relationship with someone and you believe they're the root of all evil, how quickly are they going to walk out the door? Even if you don't tell them that, if you think that in your head, how are you going to act with them? All of your habits are going to be built around having a destructive relationship with them. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone, or have you ever been the person who believed you weren't worthy of love? Read here if you want to learn more - Manifesting Methods When You Have No Money.
My relationship before Ashley was the same: she didn't grow up, and the person before Ashley didn't grow up with her dad. It was a weird situation where she didn't feel good about receiving, and then I didn't know how to handle that, so I made my mistakes, and it was so messed up. So your relationship with money isn't different from the relationship you would have with anything else because it all begins in your inner conversation.
Step 1: Change Your Inner Conversation About Money
So what I invite you to do is look at a simple three-step process to change your inner conversation about money, and that's what's going to start to bring it more into your life because here's the thing: you can work as hard as you want, and you actually can, but if your inner conversation around money sucks, you won't make it, you'll sabotage it, or you'll get it and you'll lose it all. So here's a simple three-step process:
Step number one: pull out a pen and paper and write out your new beliefs about money. They won't insert themselves into your subconscious immediately, but they do something powerful when you see them. So you get a pen and paper and write them all down in the present tense. For example, I started writing things like, "I give my talents with love, and I'm wonderfully blessed financially." I started telling myself, "I give my talents with love, and I'm wonderfully blessed financially." "Large sums of money come to me quickly and easily," and it changed my life. So I wrote them all down. So I just came up with some of them, and what I ended up doing ultimately was turning them into a success hypnosis that's been very powerful for about a million people from all over the world who used it. It's free; it's right there down below; it's jakeshypnosis.com; and you can use my free success hypnosis that has those listed into it in the description in the comments right there down below.
Step 2: Write Yourself A Letter About Money
Step number two is to write yourself a letter about money. It's really a letter to money, but you're not going to actually go give it to a piece of paper, so it's really a letter to yourself. You title the letter "Dear Money" and just write it out, just like in a relationship. I learned this from Cheryl Jensen’s book. So, she talked about writing a letter, and she's like, "My old letter to money was: "You know, money, I wish you were here, but I hate you." Where are you? I miss you. You make my life hard. I don't trust you. But please come." It was a super incongruent, convoluted letter, and I remember when I wrote mine out, I was like,
"Wow, mine's the same thing." It's nice because you get to see your active subconscious paradigm and your work paradigm, which is subconscious. Subconscious means that it's below conscious awareness; we aren't aware of how this conversation plays itself out, so when you put it on paper, you can objectively look at it, and then you can change it. Step number two is that you can write out a conversation about money in a letter to it.
Step 3: Retrain And Rewire Your Brain
Step number three is to retrain and rewire your brain, which we now know through neuroscience, which is really cool because we've got all that. Some people say that the technological society is ruining human civilization, but one good thing about it is that we have all this new medical technology that's allowed us to learn all this stuff about the brain, so we've actually learned that you actually have something called neural networks. Your brain cells connect to each other like roots in a forest, and they connect to make up your "reality."
However, your "reality" is subjective because it depends on how your brain has been wired. Every time you have an emotion or thought, you fire brain cells, and when you fire them repeatedly, they connect to each other and form a "synaptic connection" or "neural network" (these are words used in neuroscience, so you know what they mean).
Your Brain Has Software
Well, the supercomputer in your brain has software, but you need to update the software to make it work towards what you want financially, and so, when I learned all this, I started coining the phrase "first mind: the first mind is the one programmed by society for the amount of money that you make." If you want to know how that manifests in your life, just look at your present bank account and your last five years of tax returns. The second mind is the one you've programmed for yourself, and that's your desire—your conscious desire—so you can program that into your brain. We know this through neuroscience, so I created a way to do that for myself, and it worked very well, so now I've created it into this really awesome piece, and you can check that out and do a free demo of it. It's right there down below; it's the second mind.com right there down below in the description in the comments. The link to secondmind.com is right there, down below. This is Jake Ducey with jakeducey.com.
Comment below. Money has ears, and it knows when you call. Money has ears, and it hears when you change your money conversation, which begins with being honest with yourself and your own spiritual discovery. How do I really think and feel about money? And when you find those missing links and you're like, "Oh my gosh, you can't believe I talk like that," then what happens is you can rewrite the whole operating system, and ultimately, your outside financial life is just a direct reflection of your inner conversations. If you change your inner conversations, you can change your outside financial life, and it's exciting when you finally discover that.