How To Attract A Soulmate: How did I make her chase me? So this is my number one dating tip. So what I'm basically saying is that you need to stop chasing love, you need to stop chasing relationships, you need to stop chasing people that you want to attract into your life, and when you do this one thing instead, in my opinion, it's the greatest dating hack in tricking the entire world and landed me my soulmate, and we're about to have our first beautiful baby any day. If you believe true love exists, let's dive right into this. This is how most people spend their lives. Check this out to learn more - How To Get A Boyfriend Or Girlfriend And Manifest Love.
In our world, we are conditioned to believe that you need to be with someone. So we spend the majority of our waking hours going on dates, finding dates, and trying to think about what it would be like if we found our soulmate in a relationship, and so much of our free time is occupied either mentally or physically with going on dates, being with someone, trying to be with someone, or looking for someone to be with, and the problem with this is that on a subconscious level.
When You Are After Something Or Someone, You Are Undesirable
You are not desirable when you are chasing something or somebody. Everybody picks up messages subliminally on a subconscious level. It's the sixth sense, which most people aren't aware of because it's your subconscious through other means. So this is below conscious awareness; this is a sixth sense that's taking place, and I know you've felt it before, right? When somebody walks into a room, you can just feel their super bad vibes before a word comes out of their mouth, or, on the contrary, you can just feel someone's super positive, beautiful, awesome, amazing good vibes and they haven't said a word yet. You can just "pick up their vibe," which is the sixth sense, whether it's subconscious perception or subconscious extrasensory perception, when you're picking something up.
When you are chasing something or somebody, other people can pick it up subconsciously and be unaware of it; they don't know what's happening, but they find you less attractive. It doesn't need to be that you are specifically chasing one individual; it might just be that you really want a relationship; you want to manifest love; you want your soul mate; you want a husband and wife; you want a boyfriend and girlfriend; or you just want casual romance. If you are consumed with wanting it, you are sending off a message that is making you unattractive to other people.
A Void Was Made By Neediness
This is what happened to me. I really wanted a relationship. I got to a point in my life where I really wanted one, and I finally attracted somebody, and I was stoked. I really liked them. I found them really awesome, and that relationship ended up falling apart, which broke my heart for a little while while they left for another man. I didn't realize until after the fact that the reason that relationship didn't work out was because I was so attached to it. This showed up in a lot of different ways, and even though she didn't know it, she was picking up on it and finding something about me that she couldn't explain to be unattractive.
I didn't really realize that till it hit me afterwards, and I got clarity and insight when I finally stopped moping around about how it didn't work out, and I realized that it was almost like the universe speaking to me like God was speaking to me one night, and it said you need to forget about trying to find a boyfriend or a girlfriend, or trying to find a husband or a wife, and you want a boy or a girl, whatever it is, and you have to forget about it and tell yourself, "I'm going to be happy no matter what." I realized I was trying so hard for this relationship that I was in with this woman to fill voids in my life that I couldn't say I had really accomplished my goals; I couldn't say if I died that day I would I felt like I lived with no regrets, and because I couldn't say yes to that, I couldn't say if I died tomorrow I'd be content, and so that neediness created a void.
Each Life's Wavelengths Are Completely Different
I had an emptiness on a deep level that I couldn't consciously pick up, and because I had that emptiness, I was trying to unconsciously fill it with a relationship. This is how almost everybody dates; it's called a recyclable relationship. It's a term that I coined, "a recyclable relationship," so you think of recycling right and you go to that extra segment and go to the next percentage. This is what we do in relationships. We don't go in here and tell you what to do; we figure it out in here, and when you don't figure it out in here, you try to find it here, but you can't find it here. Even if the person seems perfect, it somehow ruins, sabotages, or you guys find out you aren't meant to be together, and then you move on to the next person, and then you try to find the next person. It's a recyclable relationship.
The key to transcending that is very simple, and it comes down to knowing very clearly what you want out of life and relentlessly pursuing it. Think about how few people actually have this. There are very few people. Think about this like if right now I wasn't dating Ashley or I wasn't married to Ashley and she decided to leave me and she left and I wasn't with her anymore and I started going on dates with women, I would end the dates very quickly and I would never see the person again if they didn't have clarity about what they wanted because we're on totally different wavelengths and they couldn't offer me what I wanted out of a woman: somebody who had purpose and goals, knew what they wanted, had that sense of confidence, and knew what they wanted.
Focus On Your Daily Activities
When Ashley met me, I went through a couple years of really focusing on myself, my fitness, my health, my exercise, and my business, similar to how I did after that other relationship ended. I got my first book contract with the number one publishing company in the world by paying a random house. I was just like juiced every day. I felt so excited to wake up, and I just felt like I didn't need anybody. I was no longer looking to date somebody; I actually wasn't so much. I got a phone call from the person who said Ashley and I were up, and they were trying to persuade me to go to their birthday party to meet Ashley, and I had never met Ashley. I didn't know her; I didn't know what she looked like. I'd never heard of her before the phone call, and I didn't want to go. I said no at first, and he just kept persuading me to come, and I was like, "Alright, fine, I'll come.”
I didn't want to see it because I had so much joy in my life that I recognized that the perfect person would just come without me needing it or trying to get it. So I decided to go, and that is how I met Ashley, and Ashley will tell you that the thing that made her chase me was that I really liked her but I didn't need her, and it wasn't a game I was playing or these stupid dating hacks where they're like trying to pretend like you don't actually want them. So here's what you do: you slightly look away and don't make eye contact. You wait at least 45 minutes before responding to their text messages. If they call one day later, that's manipulation, and that's not attractive. It's manipulation, and manipulation always fails.
So when Ashley met me, she had never met a man. She'll tell you this: She had never met a man who was so totally certain about who they were and what they wanted out of life. I just had this knowing about who I was and what I wanted, and I was so jazzed up about it. It was very attractive to her, and it made her really pursue me, and I told her at the beginning, "You're really cool, and it's nothing against you, but like, I'm not trying to be," and "I really wasn't looking for a relationship at all," and I'm kind of still not sure I could say that with certainty because I felt so good about myself." Everybody misses this.
You Must Develop Your Spirituality
If you want to become extremely attractive to a man or woman, you have to assume you won't meet them, which sounds very paradoxical. You have to assume you won't meet them, and if you assume you won't meet them and you assume somebody else, then a relationship can't make you happy, can't make you laugh, and can't occupy you with romance or sexual stimulation. If you assume that won't happen, then how are you going to be happy? You have to find yourself spiritually. You're going to have to know yourself spiritually. You're going to have a personal relationship with a higher power. You are going to have a life that you actually enjoy living. You have to wake up and like your life, which means if you hate your job, you're going to have to figure it out. If you aren't making the amount of money that you want to make, you're going to have to figure it out. If you're overweight, you feel unhealthy, or you have this problem or that problem, you're going to have to start exercising. You're going to have to start taking care of your health. You're going to have to start eating better. You're going to have to do all the things that you know you should do and that you know are best for you, but for some reason we never do them. I didn't do them even though I knew, and that was how that relationship before failed.
When you do this, you are so sure of who you are and so connected to the joy and well-being of life that you become attractive to other people, and they are attracted to your energy; they want to chase that vibe, so you literally have people that chase you. You literally have without going to a dating class or learning manipulative psychological tactics to make people want you. You don't need any of that. You just need to be so sure of who you are, so connected to life, and so not needing a relationship that when the perfect person comes along, they're very attracted to you. You're attracted to them, but you still recognize that the number one most important thing is you and your own happiness, and then, boom, it's game over; you become irresistible.
Determine Your Goal In Life
So I invite you to start there with a couple simple questions. What do I need to do that I don't do? What are the things that I should do that I neglect to do? Jim Rohn said it best. What's easy to do is easy not to do. Is it exercise? Is it eating differently? Is it taking your finances more seriously and getting you out of debt? Is it starting that side business? Is it increasing your income? Is it moving to that one place? What is it? Then the second thing to start looking at is what are my goals, and if I don't have any, I should write them down on a piece of paper and tape them to my wall. There's nothing more attractive than a person who knows where they're going; they release a subconscious certainty about them that is extremely attractive because almost nobody has it. People can't put their finger on it, but it makes you magnetic.
So write your goals down clearly, and then assume number three: that you are not going to meet the perfect person and you need to rely totally on yourself to be 100 percent happy, whole, and complete. What would you do, and how would your life look? If you focus on those three things, you will meet the perfect person unexpectedly, and they'll chase you, so you won't need to work at it. You won't need to learn all these techniques and all these things; they'll just exude from you naturally, just like when there's an aquifer in the ground and you stick a pipe in the ground and the water shoots up; that's what's going to happen. It's just going to emanate from you as charisma; it's going to emanate from you as confidence and certainty, as making other people feel safe and intrigued, and they will chase you.
So this is Jake Ducey with Jakeducey.com, and truly, this is my personal number one dating tip, and it at least worked out well for me. Right over there on this side, comment down below that true love exists. Leave a comment down below that says that, and recognize first that when you find it within yourself and you find that love for yourself and that true love for your life, you will see it reflected in outside relationships because the outside world, including dating, is just a mirror of your inner state and your inner world.
Enjoy Your Life And Love Yourself
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