How not to take things personally is essential if you are dealing with negative people. Have you ever had a really good idea, a dream, or something you were inspired by, but then someone you know talked you down? I'm going to break down what I think is the biggest key that's radically changed my life. I've been able to apply it to my life and how you can use it to not take things personally when other people want to tell you no, or reject you and stop you from pursuing your dream. So my name is Jake, with jakeducey.com. Check out my "free success hypnosis." It's jakeshypnosis.com. Check out my other blog about The Most Powerful Way to Deal With Negative People Using The Law Of Attraction.
So what I learned was this phrase: sw-sw-sw-sw. So it says: Some will say yes, some will say no. So what? Someone's waiting. That's from Jack Canfield. In his book, The Success Principles, the creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, says, "sw-sw-sw-sw." Some will say yes, some will say no. So what? Someone's waiting. Or it could be said another way: some will encourage you, some will discourage you. So what? Someone is waiting. I realize this breaks down into three big ideas, and I want to share them with you.
How Not To Take Things Personally - Sometimes God Puts No's In Your Life
So the number one thing that I have here on my notes is that sometimes God puts no's in your life so that you can learn how to find the courage to say yes to yourself and yes to your faith that God will provide for you. Then number two says, someone will always be jealous of people that are trying, achieving, and striving in life. Most people are so afraid of truly being alive that they feel habitually threatened by anyone who does feel alive, anyone who is breaking out of their comfort zone and not being a little weenie. They feel threatened by them all the time because it goes against their whole identity as wimps.
So it's only natural that they unconsciously gravitate toward and project that as negative energy against your dreams, but it's really just their jealousy. Number three, just remember "sw-sw-sw-sw" Some will say yes, some will say no. So what? Someone is waiting. Some will encourage you, some won't. So what? Someone's waiting. It sounds like a bunch of nice motivational sayings and quotes. So just to not be another person that's just telling you something that I'm not living. You should start learning how not to take things personally to deal with bad elements and negative people. I want to share with you some hilarious and, at the time, pretty embarrassing stories of me applying this to my life and how I learned this because I read it in the books.
These Things That I Was Reading About Started Popping Into My Head
I read this type of stuff in books, I watched it in YouTube videos, and then I had this big dream of becoming a well-published author. I dropped out of college. I backpacked around the world. I went out to publish my first book. No one would publish it, so I had to self-publish and promote it all on my own and get my workout. I had some pretty embarrassing things happen to me, and all of these things that I was reading about started popping into my head. So get this picture: I'm 21 years old, my hair's really really long, probably the longest it's ever been, and this 21-year-old kid's got this book that I self-published called Into The Wind, my six-month journey wandering the world for life's purpose.
So imagine you're in your local bookstore and you see all these chairs lined up. 50 of them on a little stage at your local bookstore. The signs say "author to speak shortly." Well, that author was me, and this was my self-published book. I was trying to figure out how to sell 10,000 copies because I was told I needed to send 10,000 copies to get a book contract with a big publishing company. So I showed up to my speech, organized by the local independent spiritual bookstore. There are like 50 seats, and two of them are filled by two middle-aged folks not sitting together on different ends of the seats. I was to give a 20–30 minute speech and talk about my book.
How Not To Take Things Personally - Some Will Encourage You, Some Will Discourage You
So I do this whole talk and try to get everyone fired up. I tell them about the story, tell them about the book, and explain to them why they should buy it. You should start learning how not to take things personally to deal with bad elements and negative people. This lady stands up at the end. I'll literally never forget her. It was the first stranger that ever attacked me. She was like, "Well, I don't believe any of this," and she just went off. I mean, no one else was in the crowd, so it wasn't that embarrassing because the room was already empty to begin with. It's my first or second public appearance, if you can even call it that. I'm thinking maybe I'll at least get two people that'll buy the book, and this lady’s arguing with me. I didn't even know what to do, and eventually I kind of disarmed it. Then I left shortly thereafter and got into my car.
I was kind of taking a breath, and maybe you can think of a time like that in your life where something so unexpected happened, and it totally overwhelmed you in your career and in your financial goals and your health and your relationships. Somehow, life just put you on your butt, and you weren't expecting life to put you on your butt. It's crazy when somebody just shows up. Maybe they don't like what you're doing, or maybe it's your parents. You don't see that often, and they don't like your idea of building your own business. For whatever reason it is, some will say yes, some will say no. So what? Someone's waiting. Some will encourage you, some will discourage you. So what? Someone is waiting.
You Literally Start Attracting All The Great Things
Someone is waiting for whatever it is that you have. Whether you sell real estate, whether you fix cars, or whether you want to spend more time with someone, someone is waiting. I would cross out "some" and I would say "many." Many will say no, but so what? What most people do is, as soon as someone says no, they say okay and they just shrink because we're taught to shrink in our world. We're taught to stay in our place in this world. You should start learning how not to take things personally to deal with bad elements and negative people. So I want you to just repeat that phrase, and I want you to think of one area where you can apply that to your life from Jack Canfield. Some will say yes, some will say no. So what? Someone's waiting.
When you get past that, you get past that threshold. You just finally get to the point where you're like, "I don't care." That's when you literally start attracting all the great things. When you literally stop caring at all, and you know this is your purpose, This is what you're meant to do. You're motivated, and you care about what you're committing to. You're not stopping regardless of whether someone says no, if somebody attacks you, if somebody doubts you, if somebody is jealous of you, if somebody tries to stop you. Once you get to that point, that's when all the magic happens.
How Not To Take Things Personally - Most People Stop Before They Get There
Most people stop before they get there. Some will say no. So what? So, hopefully you enjoyed this little motivational pep talk. You can apply it in some areas of your life. My website is jakeshypnosis.com, and it offers "free success hypnosis." I've been using it for about 10 years, and this is what really changed my life every time I was told no. When I wasn't getting signs from the universe or things weren't quite working out, I just kept brainwashing myself.
I kept on controlling myself. You should start learning how not to take things personally to deal with bad elements and negative people. The outside world didn't brainwash me. My present circumstances didn't brainwash me. I would plug this in, I'd listen to it, and I would mentally rehearse my success, the things in my imagination, my dreams, or goals that hadn't yet materialized. I would just start using the success hypnosis in my imagination to take me back into that powerful place. You can use it as well. About a million people from all over the world have used it.