Can I ask you some questions? Do you know how to say no without feeling guilty? How do you feel when you say no to something that you want to say no to, but you know, the other person wants you to say yes to it. Most of us feel guilty right? We feel awkward. And a lot of times we end up saying yes, even though we want to say, now think about what that does to us and think about how often we do that. We do it with our time trying to start a side business. You know, you need to spend time on your friend, wants you to come over and watch a yellow stone and get super hammered. Right?
How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty? Stop Pleasing Others
You don't want to really, you could still have fun, but you don't want to really, but you do it anyways. You really know that you need to go to the gym. Your goal is nine. Am you go to the gym Monday through Friday, but your friend says this or something happens with your boss and your bosses. Like, can you come an hour early? Whatever it is, right? I want, I want you to genuinely ask yourself, do you say no enough? Only you know the answer to that. I'm not trying to make this another post where you stumble across. And it's another silly little read. I want this post to change your life. Otherwise, I wasted my time by coming out. Then I really looked like a fool. I'm out here in the desert, we woke up early, man. Then I really wasted my time.
Determine What You Need To Say No To.
Do you say no enough? This is how to say no without feeling guilty. Determine what you need to say no to? I mean, it doesn't need to be this big thing where you flip people off and you're like, no, no, man, no, no. You just go, Hey, I can't do that. Really would like to maybe next week on Friday, I've got some free time, but I can't. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. What do you need to say no to in this video, I'm going to break that down in a little bit more detail. And then to help you find the courage to say no to the things, you know, you need to say no to. I'm going to tell you some ways for how to do it so that it doesn't create more problems for you. And I'm going to show you what's possible for your life. If you know how to say no without feeling guilty, I guarantee you, you could make double the amount of money.
If you said no twice as much, you probably wouldn't even end up working that much more. I guarantee you that you could be way healthier. I guarantee you, you could find your soulmate. If you started saying no to the half-assed relationships, I guarantee it. That was what happened to me, knows been the most powerful word I've ever learned. It helped me become a multimillionaire. In my twenties. It helped me attract my soulmate in my twenties. It helped me build a family that I'm proud of in my twenties. I had my dream home. I've lived all over the world and it's all from saying no. And I was a college dropout. So think about what you could do. Imagine what your life will look like. So my name's Jake with jakeducey.com Theres one thing you have to say yes for right now. And then right there, download my free success of gnosis it's Jakes hypnosis.com right there down below. I know I'm just joking. Kind of having some fun here, but let's dive into a serious subject now.
How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty? Saying No, Opens Doors!
All right. So after my little crazy intro, I hope you've at least thought of one big thing. And I want to just break this down a little bit, right? So, let's start with relationships. How can you attract your soulmate? If you keep saying yes to the relationships that you don't want to be in because you dont know how to say no without feeling guilty, or you're in one, that's pretty good, but you know, it's not great. And you know, you guys aren't right for each other and it's never going to be really what you want it to be, but you don't want to be alone. So it's better than being alone. So you stay in it. What message are you sending to yourself? First of all, how are you valuing yourself in this moment? Not as high as you should be. Not as high as you could be.
Saying Yes To What You Don't Want Sends The Wrong Message.
So what message are you sending to the universe? What message are you sending to your subconscious mind? What beliefs are you forming that were already formed that now you're just solidifying calcifying into the neurological structure of your brain. What are you saying? Soulmate? Isn't out there. I can't do better. That's put, you're saying I'm not worth anymore. You don't realize you're saying, that's what you're saying. Well, how much longer can you keep saying yes in an abusive relationship and it might not be a romantic, abusive relationship. It might be an abusive relationship with a family member and it may not be physically abusive. It might be abusive relationship with your boss. Somebody you work with that. Oh my goodness. They're the worst. But you just keep staying. Now. Think about how much the quality of your relationships would approve. Now let's look at some other things, uh, saying no to people that really aren't in our highest and best interests.
Well, I've been friends with them forever. Not anymore. You don't have to be mean about it. My life changed when I quit hanging out with people that weren't going to, where I wanted to go. It was a little turbulent. At first. My life changed when I quit saying no to anything free for my free gigs, unless it was something I felt like donating my time to. I went from speaking all over the place. I would always do them for free. We didn't have any money, but we have a shoe. You want one shoe? We have one, it's an old shoe. You could have it. Sure. I love old shoes. And I would just say yes to everything. And at some points in my career was important. But then there was another point in my career where I began to look at myself as someone who couldn't make a lot of money. So what did I have to do? I had to act like someone who could make it. What do people that make a lot of money? They say no to a lot of things because they don't need it. Look here. My terms, if you want to work with me, these are it. If not, no worries at all. I appreciate you reaching out.
How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty? Know Your Worth!
All of a sudden, I went from a little baby to someone that realized they had a level of worth. So what types of people that I attract people that match that Tony Robbins always quotes the old saying. He says, uh, that life will pay whatever you ask of it. Life gave me a penny or life gives you what you want. So here's a couple of powerful things you could start to do. Number one, don't go as often and don't stay as long. You might have some old friends, family members, PVC, every single Friday. You known them forever, but they're not going to where you really want. They're not that positive. They may not be super toxic, but they're just stagnant. You're growing or you're dying. Everything is energy. Energy is never created or destroyed. It's always transferring to new states. So is your energy creating or disintegrating?
It can only do one or the other. Energy is never created or destroyed. So your life is following the same trajectory. So don't go as often and don't stay as long. Number two, find the courage to say no courage. Isn't the absence of fear. It's when you feel uncomfortable and you say it anyway, you could say it in a nice, respectful kind way. It'll help you work on your communication skills to start to express your emotions more authentically, but find the courage to say no. And I want you to number three, pick something right now in your life that you keep saying yes to that. You want to say, no, you know, you should say, no. You've been saying yes to it though. I want you to actually pick one and comment right there down below. You may not want to comment it down below for some privacy or whatever.
But if you have a burner account, you could even change your burner account. You could say Jake Ducey sucks 1486 at Gmail. And then comment down below one thing you want to start saying no to the reason I want you to do this is because I don't want you to just hear this video and then move on and say, that was pretty interesting. But you forget about it by the end of the day. And then another video pops up first. I want you to leave with something in this video. I want that to honor your time. So comment down below or think of one thing that you are ready to start saying no to.
Saying No, Lets Us Become Our Best Version.
So let me leave you with this. How can you be the best version of yourself? How can you help your family, your friends, your community, your world. How could you help them? If you aren't even helping yourself saying no is one of the most important decisions you'll ever start to put into your life. When you do it, your life will change immeasurably. You may have some time when you feel alone, maybe a couple of friends, you don't see them as often anymore, and you always spent time with them. That's great. That's what you want. Because when you think you're alone, you're really in the greatest company because you're starting to find your true self. When we don't know ourselves or honor ourselves, we need to surround ourselves with other people, especially other people that don't know and honor themselves either because birds of a feather flock together. So if you enjoyed this post let me know in the comments, also right there down below is my free success hypnosis to reprogram your subconscious mind. So when I started spending more time alone for awhile, when I went from dropping out of college, I decided I'm traveling around the world. Write this whole book. All my friends thought I was insane. One of my best friends that I still have from, I only have like one friend from high school. Cause they all thought I was insane.
He told me that everyone was saying, I went insane. I do see, went crazy. And I thought, good news means I'm making progress. But I started spending my time, hypnotizing myself, because they also, there's no way you're going to be a successful author. What are you going to do? You're going to make philosopher videos on YouTube. Let's just drink beers and crack them on our forehead. And so I realized I needed to start brainwashing myself. I always say, brainwash yourself before the world brainwashes you. If you like that comment down below, "brainwash yourself before the world brainwashes you!" Cause everybody's brainwashed. It's just a matter of your program for what you want or what you don't want. So I started hypnotizing myself. It's right there down below. It's free. I give it away for free because I want to make sure this isn't just another channel where you watch someone's videos and they're kind of cool and they're kind of motivating and you kind of like them.
And even if you listen to them every day, I want to make sure that you actually have your, your brain changes. Your mind changes your life changes. You see it reflect in your bank account. You see it reflect the new synchronicities. You feel it. And that's why I give this away. It's jakeshypnosis.com right there down below. It's above the comments below. If you enjoyed it, send it out in the universe, share it with a friend that needs to start saying no to something. Think of that. One thing to say no to. And so, give me a comment down below. We'll see you next time.
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